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In Sickness and In Health

/ adam, ronni, sad, sick

One hard thing about being in a long-distance relationship is when one of us gets sick, and the other can’t be there. I was sooo sick Sunday night, and yesterday, and I felt so alone and I felt like crying because no one was there to hold me or rub my back. I can’t wait until I don’t have to be alone when I am sick anymore. And I can’t wait until I can take care of him as well.

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Registered, New Family, Marriage (Pictures)

/ adam, atlanta, family, marriage, pictures, ronni
Adam and I spent last week together, with his family, in Atlanta. We popped in to Target to do our first registry. Good times. 🙂

We both had fun with the gun, even though it yelled at us from time to time. We tried to register for things that’ll be around for a while there rather than seasonal stuff; the wedding is still almost a year away. What’s challenging is that he and I both like fall colors, like oranges and browns and reds, and those are seasonal!
Speaking of the wedding, I haven’t done anything major with plans in a while. Well, I did pop into the Jessica McClintock store to peep at some of the dresses, but that’s it. I’m not sure I should even be worrying about much until I move. It’ll just be easier once I’m living in Chicago.
But, we’re registered at Target. At first, I thought about registering at least one more place—probably Bed, Bath & Beyond or Linens & Things, but we’ll see.
I had a great time with the Selzers in Atlanta. We celebrated Thanksmas, which is a fun combination of Christmas and Thanksgiving. With Eli & Melissa in California, myself in Ohio, and Adam in Illinois, it’s hard to travel a lot this time of year for both holidays. Sooooo, Adam’s mom, Sharon, decided to combine the two holidays.
It was a lot of fun. Sharon had told me once that I really fit in with the family, and I really felt like it all last week. 🙂 I hear these stories about in-laws not getting along and I feel fortunate that won’t be a problem for me. I’m going to like being a Selzer.

(Originally published at Anywhere Is…)

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Talking Marriage

/ adam, marriage, ronni

Today, I stumbled across an article titled Ten Things to Consider Before Getting Married. Lots of food for thought.

I forwarded the article to Adam and it opened up a nice dialogue of some of our expectations, habits, compromises we’ll have to make, etc. It was good. We found that we’re pretty much in alignment with everything.

If I haven’t learned anything else from before, I did learn that communication is SO very important. Sure, people say that all the time, but it’s really true. The thing is, I’m very non-confrontational. If someone does something and I get upset by it, I find it hard to go to the person and say “Hey, it really bugged me when you did blah blah blah.” But I’ve found that when I suck it up and say something, a few things happen.

1. He gets a chance to explain what he meant or why he said it or whatever.
2. I get to realize that it probably wasn’t as bad as I thought it was.
3. The air is cleared.

I’m not carrying around this hidden resentment and bitterness, everything is cleared up, and we can move on. In the past, I used to hold stuff in, let it fester, and then something small would push me over the edge and I would shut down. I am terrible with The Silent Treatment. It is so much easier (at least, right away) to shut down and stew. But these days, I force myself out of my comfort zone and actually TALK about whatever is bothering me. It’s so much better for both of us this way. And in the long run, a lot easier than letting stuff build up.

The article talks about “plans,” and he outlines the basics for starting a conversation about 1-, 3-, 6-, and 9-year plans. Those things cover meatier topics, but I think we can manage it. 🙂 I *LIKE* to talk about relationship-related stuff. And wedding stuff. And romantic stuff.

‘Til next time!

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